As the holiday season approaches, allow yourself to be festive. Balance the challenges and disappointments of this year with joy. Create an intention to enjoy yourself throughout the holidays – better than you ever have before. Although there may be limitations and this year will be different than previous years, you can still find fun and laughter in new places. Be creative and intentional. Be kind to yourself. Have a good time!
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Sometimes, you can feel like you are cracking open. Stress, change or unsettling events can be the cause. It is not a comfortable place to be. The nature of the occurrence and how you view it makes a big difference in how you experience it.
Cracking open can be a crisis leading to tragedy or opportunity. It can be a release of the old to make room for the new or an indication that there is something very wrong in your life. Or, it can be the start of a transformation.
Whenever you begin to feel like you are cracking open, find your way back to center. Observe what is happening and treat yourself with kindness. Handle it in the best way you can. It could be the beginning of a wonderful time for you.
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The challenges of this time seem to not be going away. You may have thought that they would be around for a short time and then you could return to normal. It’s not looking that way. Actually, the pressure seems to be mounting.
How do you deal with remote work, kids schooling from home, social distancing, health risks and scares and other restrictions? How your life has changed? The path ahead is uncharted and that means you find your own way. Do the best you can. Be kind to yourself and believe that you will find a way. Keep your eye out for silver linings and new opportunities that will help make this a positive time for you.
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Staying in the present moment makes a lot of sense these days. The world is facing many unknowns and uncertainties. At the same time, however, it makes sense to give some thought to what is to come. Here are some questions you can answer to start positioning yourself well for the long run:
• Look out a few years from now regarding your current work. How does the future look? Do you anticipate changes or does it look like things will stay the same? Do you see yourself doing the same work then as you are doing now?
• What opportunities do you see becoming available to you now or in the near future? Could they lead you in a new direction? Is that new direction one you want to prepare for or explore?
• Is there a skill you have wanted to develop but have not had time to in the past? Would that skill position you well for a job that has a future?
• Is there a dream you have had that you can start pursuing now because the time seems right to do what you have to to make it come true?
Long range vision makes for happy futures. Take some time now to look towards the future and make it the best it can be.
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A friend wrote me today saying she was anxious to see what the “new normal” will be. We certainly are at an in-between stage now, where the old is fading and the new is not fully here. That is not necessarily a comfortable place to be. How are you coping with it?
As always, being in the present moment is a good place to be. It also can help to take a day at a time, setting achievable goals and intentions. And best to adjust your expectations, by recognizing that uncertainty surrounds us.
Let’s hope the new normal begins to unfold. Until then, do the best you can. You’ll get through this!
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Boredom may seem harmless, but beware – it can derail you. Boredom gets you restless, with no place to go. Your mind and emotions can wander to unproductive places. It can keep you out of the present moment and throw you back to the past or into an ill-defined future.
How can you avoid boredom and keep yourself energized? Here are some suggestions:
• Structure your day. Schedule tasks throughout the day that stimulate you in blocks of time, so boredom can’t set in.
• Investigate the cause of your boredom. Do you have enough to do? Are present conditions because of the virus limiting you in ways you were not limited before?
• Find one new thing to do each week. Stay with the things that resonate with you.
• Have a plan to get yourself out of boredom if it sets in (e.g. take a walk)
• Keep your life and work balanced so your center is not hard to find.
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Discernment: the quality of being able to grasp and comprehend what is obscure; the ability to judge well.
If there ever was a skill for these times, discernment is one of them. Amidst change, there is so much to decide. Your ability to choose well is crucial to your balance and happiness. Discernment requires you to be present to the choice you face, to carefully examine the situation before you and to have the ability to make a choice when there are unknowns involved.
How would you rate your powers of discernment? Sharpening this skill will create ease and improve your life and work.
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Sometimes you have to create some space around you. Walls crowd in and it is all too much. Pressures, people, demands, dissonance and missteps take their toll.
Creating space around you allows you to breathe. You can reorient, calm down and regain perspective. The next time you have had enough, find some space to regroup in. You won’t regret it!
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Frustration is an intense emotion. When other emotions are on the rise at the same time, frustration can easily get out of hand. As the amount of stress you are under compounds, carefully watch what is happening with your frustration level. Frustration can take you to destructive places that do not serve you.
Managing your frustration, especially in times of elevated stress is a key element of emotional intelligence. Protect yourself, learn to quiet your frustration when you need to and you’ll avoid some bumpy rides.
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When weather or another obstacle changes a river, it naturally finds a new flow. It may have to carve new territory or forge through soil, rocks or higher elevations. We can follow the river’s lead in this time of change.
Do you feel you have a smooth flow to your life now? What has changed? Are you trying to push past obstacles unsuccessfully? Are things backing up, causing you frustration? Try creating a new flow. What do you need physically, mentally and emotionally to thrive in these times?
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